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这个态度好是好，难哪，心虚啊。
gege1 发表于 2011-5-9 20:13 
我是说的真的，学术界被这个状态所困扰的人很多。我因为做导师，所以经常看到。有的时候不知道为什么，一个很有才华的年轻人，怎么也拿不出东西来。开始我就给他们规定期限，可是规定了期限也不行。后来有一天，我忽然意识到了，不是他不做，而是他做完了不敢往外拿。于是我就跟他说：你得明白一件事，我是你导师，帮你把关的，起到保护你的作用。我不是你的评委。你都一次性做好了，就不用我这个导师了。这学生后来好像忽然一下子明白过来了。事实证明他真的是不可多得的人才。
看看这个：
3 Strategies to Convert Perfectionist Paralysis Into Productivity
By Paula Eder
Time management tips help you break time habits that hinder your progress. For example, think of habitual perfectionism as the ultimate time goblin. The more of your time you feed it, the larger and more tyrannical it becomes.
Fortunately, perfectionism is a learned behavior that you can unlearn. You were not born a perfectionist. So commit to understanding and overcoming perfectionism. Learn first-hand how much more pleasurable and productive your life can become!
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Three Strategies to Overcome Perfectionism:- Identify the source of your perfectionist voice. Sit back and relax, closing your eyes. Tune into the voice of your perfectionist as if you were tuning in to a radio station from long ago. Whose voices do you hear? Perhaps members of your family urged you to perform. Maybe teachers imposed unrealistic demands upon you. Then again, you may have modeled yourself upon someone who seemed larger-than-life, or whose standards were extreme.
- Write down perfectionist messages you give yourself. By writing down these messages, you can immediately identify the expectations that aren't realistic. This is an important accomplishment in itself! Don't bother trying to defend yourself. The perfectionist time goblin isn't listening to you. Instead, envision yourself placing each message into a burlap sack, tying it securely, and burying it in a deep hole. Now, consciously replace each message with a realistic goal.
- Identify the underlying fear. You empower yourself every time you identify the source of your fear. Do you fear failure, fear success, or are you apprehensive about what will happen if you do succeed?
Whatever your fear may be, the promise that perfectionism can "fix it" is illusory. Do you hope that being "perfect" will provide you with a measure of control over your environment that is impossible to attain? It is both compassionate and realistic to let that go.
And then, exercise your genuine power to replace perfectionism with realism. Validate that your best is good enough. And make your peace with what lies beyond your ability to fix. Fully appreciating your genuine efforts and allowing yourself room to grow, empowers you and helps you experience the world as a safer place.
Reducing your perfectionism is both courageous and sensible. Living more realistically makes your time more enjoyable, and more productive, as well.
Now ask yourself: How can you replace perfectionism with productivity today to make the best use of your time?
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